When love seems lost, a strong realisation that prompts a second chance can turn the darkest moments into a brighter tomorrow
Marriage can be a rollercoaster ride with its ups and downs, at its best, it is a joy and dream-sharing partnership. At worst, it can be tediously endless, with its succession of wars and misunderstandings. For some couples, the road gets so rocky that sometimes, divorce seems the only alternative. Yet there are cases, where even people standing on the verge of separation have somehow regrouped and reignited their love and have rebuilt the relationship. The story of Rajesh and Megha (names changed) is a marvellous example of how love can bear all sorts of hurt and yet thrive in the end, and how determination can help in rescuing the marriage.
Rajesh and Megha’s twelve-year marriage began with an amiable romance in college, flowed into the joys of two children and a cozy home. But a few years later, the wearing down effects of the two working pressures, financial stressors, and parental responsibilities began to tell. The disagreements turned into heated arguments, and even trifling things about household chores degenerated into fiery debates on their future. A multifarious bundle of duties made Rajesh feel belittled, and keeping a balance between home and work made Megha feel neglected. The bonds of love were getting dented by this growing bitterness and discontent.
One particularly intense argument left both Rajesh and Meghain tears, thinking that divorce might be the only way out. Then something very crucial emerged from the silence that followed, even in their anger and hurt, they realised that they still loved each other.
Soon they realised that they couldn’t fix the relationship without involving a third person, may be someone who is an experts or has dealt with marriage issues. They started with a marriage counsel recommended by friends. Simultaneously thereached out to a lawyer to understand the complexity involved in seeking divorce and its effect. The lawyer pointed out various complexities arise from the division of assets, financial settlements, alimony, child custody disputes and others which can be compounded by emotional stress and conflicting interests. Besides the lawyer after hearing the issues that were stalling the couple, suggested them an open communication and mutual respect. “If after a fortnight you still feel the same, I will be here to help you.But remember, divorce does not guarantee a better partner and definitely not a better future,” he advised.
Heeding this third voice from the counsel, Rajesh and Meghadecided to give their marriage a last fortnightly trial. Beginning immediately, they learnt the importance of listening to each other without interrupting or becoming defensive. They learned to be honest with their emotions but in a respectful way, focusing on feelings and not blaming one another. This helped restore little by little the eroded trust over all these years. One of the other big changes expected of them was to spend quality time together. So, Rajesh and Meghadecided to set up regular date nights where they might rediscover their interests in activities that brought them closer initially. These moments of connection served to remind them exactly why they fell in love in the first place.
Another key step was setting shared goals for the future. Together, they talked about their dreams and aspirations both as individuals and as a couple. From these, they had a renewed sense of purpose with a map on how the journey of their relationship would look like. It wasn’t a smooth journey in saving their marriage. Minutes would catch up with them when old patterns of behaviour again took over and they found themselves slipping back into arguments. But now, armed with the effects of divorce learned in sessions with the lawyer and a rejuvenated commitment to each other, they pressed on.
Today, Rajesh and Meghaare still married. Their relationship isn’t perfect—no marriage is—but it’s much stronger and more resilient than it used to be. Through it all, they have come to realise that love is not a feeling; rather, it is a choice—requiring effort, patience, and understanding. The story of Rajesh and Meghateaches that, indeed, love can transform.
Key Takeaways for Couples Facing Similar Problems-
- Seek Professional Help- A qualified counsellor or lawyer is able to offer tools and new perspectives.
- Communicate Openly- Honest and respectful communication is a vital component of a sound relationship.
- Spend Quality Time Together- Rekindle the memories by doing things together to remind yourself of what brought you together in love.
- Set Shared Goals- Having common goals gives one a sense of purpose and direction.
- Be Patient, Persistent and Never give up– Restoring the marriage demands time and effort.
Saving a marriage requires a long, difficult, yet most-fulfilling journey. It involves the commitment and hard work to grow with each other. The falling apart story of Rajesh and Megha, is one similar to most married couples. Where they go one step beyond, giving each other another chance, really sets them apart. Their story shows that no matter how dark things may appear, love can be reignited, and there is always a way back to each other.
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